Posted by Michael Finkelstein | May 3rd, 2011

The Milk Moon

The new moon in May is often referred to as “The Milk Moon,” which no doubt conjures up an immediate and direct correlation to a mother’s milk, the very first substance a parent is able to use to nurture their children.  Far before likes, dislikes, habits and preferences develop, a mother’s milk is the very substance of a baby’s life; and becomes the physical matter as well as a new source of energy flow that connects mother and child.  This critical time of development is so inherently instinctual and rich in milestones that, for children and parents alike, it shapes patterns of attachment that can often last a lifetime.

With Mother’s Day around the corner, and Father’s Day not too far behind, now is an optimal time to think of the bonds intrinsic to our relationships. As years pass we often take for granted some of these deep connections and lose touch literally and figuratively, not only with our parents but with the source of life itself. Since relationships are fundamental to the fabric of our lives, a periodic review of their “health” is a great way to measure how we are doing.  Sound, healthy relationships are an indication that things are going well.  On the other hand, unhealthy, dysfunctional relationships tell us that something is amiss.

Simply, the quality of our relationships determines how skillfully we are living.  Good relationships require compassion, balance, flexibility, and equanimity.  Our primary relationships-with others and ourselves-are a true reflection of our physical, emotional and spiritual health.

Inevitably, things occur over the course of our lives that throw these relationships off balance.  Arguments, anger and a groundswell of emotions can get the best of us, resulting in hurt feelings and perpetual grudges, creating discomfort on both sides.  It is in these times of turmoil that we have the most valuable opportunity of all-that of being able to let go, come to accept our feelings and return to the moment.  And while it is not always easy to heal a relationship that has gone sour, especially if it is not a mutual endeavor, it is important, nonetheless, to try. Ultimately, there are times when the best we can do in a relationship is to let go. But before then, compassion and forgiveness go a long way.  I have also learned to appreciate that when we take life less seriously we actually find some extra room in our hearts to reconnect. For this reason, it is always a good time to celebrate.