Posted by Michael Finkelstein | October 19th, 2017
How Will Your Story Go?
“They” say that today is the first day of the rest of your life. And, I believe that is true. Yet, so many times, I find myself rehashing the past, indeed, reliving it, or at least, playing the past forward. One of the most important things we can do, of course, is to redirect our course; but, that is easier said than done – like times at night, as I lie awake trying to get to sleep, that the past seems to appear quite regularly. Sometimes it is a simply replay of history, and other times, the anxiety and tension that keeps me awake is another apparent manifestation of the hurts and traumas of the past. It takes a while to fall asleep those nights, and often my dreams remind me once again of something I need to see.
But, what is that? I don’t believe it is a simple matter of choosing a different path. Instead, I think we need to do something with the path in order to release it, so we can walk on in a different way….perhaps wiser, more mature, more evolved. To me, the key is not to forget or process-away the past, but to incorporate it in such a manner that it feeds our souls. In other words, converting the raw, sometimes painful energy, into a force for growth. Again, easy to say, but not so easy to do. For what I have observed, this is particularly hard for individuals who have deeply suffered. It would be so nice if we could just get it to go away; but, unfortunately it doesn’t work that way. It appears that the alternatives are to live with the past continuing to haunt us, or to find another way.
For some, perhaps, the “where they can go” may be limited and too “far reaching” a concept. Which is why a useful suggestion may be to look at some of the aspects of your living situation that may be more “accessible;” for instance, those that relate to your immediate environment. These may be more amenable to change than the more deeply rooted story in the background.
Here, I would take stock of things such as lighting and color. Natural light is much more powerful than indoor, “electricity”. Similarly, nature, in its full array, has benefits that technology cannot provide. Spend more time there. In fact, you can bring it indoors in the form of plants or pets. You also have a choice to limit yourself to exposure to some negative people and negative news in particular. While some things might be more difficult, choosing bright over drab is one of the easier new habits you can initiate.
And, finally, on the day of the new moon, and this time of harvest, in fact, it would be good to list all the things you are grateful for; to reap the bounty of the beauty that surrounds you, that, in a paradoxically way, despite the more painful experiences, have found their way to you.
All of this, actually, is quite a good starting point.